I Needed This and You Probably Do Too! (you just don’t know it yet)

I’m so motivated, I could explode.

I’m literally bouncing in my barstool as I type this. Ladies, gentlemen, gentleladies…. Shannon posted a fantastic article today on SITS about blogging motivation. I didn’t know I needed it until I watched this video:

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Have you ever had an idea that popped into your head and you thought about it every night before dream time and every morning over your first cup of coffee? An idea that literally harasses your thoughts and taps you on the shoulder every single day without pause? Well, I get these ideas from time to time. I write them down. I mull over them. And then for whatever reason, usually money, I don’t do a damn thing about any of them. So I sit here with this million dollar notebook and have nothing to show for it except writer’s cramp and a head ache.

Today, I’m inspired. I’ve known people who have started extremely successful businesses with a whim and a prayer and some of my ideas are so good that I can literally see them exploding into multi-million dollar businesses. Why money doesn’t motivate me, I don’t know. It never has. Probably never will. And that’s fine with me. So I’ve had to readjust my thinking and figure out what does. I used to sell Mary Kay and that’s really when I learned what I’m capable of and what works for me. I learned where my motivation comes from and what inspires me to keep going. Where do I get my kicks?

Recognition. Plain and simple. I love a good pat on the back. Some people love money, others love prizes and gifts, and some people just enjoy the challenge. When someone tells me I’m doing a great job and they mean it, I am on cloud nine. I love hearing my own name and knowing that I did a great job. Mary Kay was a fantastic opportunity for me. I don’t have a passion for skin care or makeup, but I learned so much more about myself and what I want and need in that business than I have working for any other company. The weeks where I focused on money, I bombed. I bombed so hard. I would get excited about my 5 bookings for the day and then when it came time to do them, I just froze. I wasn’t focusing on the right things. I was focusing on something that simply didn’t motivate me. It was a such a colossal waste of time. Why? When the day was done and my bookings weren’t made I would get so mad at myself. So mad, that I would start to question my possibility of success at anything. I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. It was so completely bogus! So I sat myself down one day and asked myself the hard question: What do I really want? And what is it going to take for me to get there? What inspires me every single day to get up, write, cook and research every single day?

The answer is: YOU DO! When I write a blog that knocks it out of the park whether it be funny or inspiring or just plain touching to the point where I want to read it over and over to gain something from my own writing… I know you will love it. Helping other people makes me feel great. Not good. GREAT. I love knowing that you can relate to something that I have to say and that you will take something away from it. That it will make you think. That it will inspire you to write your own blog on the same topic or that it will make you feel something that you haven’t in a while. That you will remember someone you forgot. I love hearing your stories and your cheers when I have overcome a hurdle. I love hearing your ideas and thoughts and suggestions and more often than not I will put them to good use.

We’ve all heard of personality types and sometimes I find they can put us into a box and we lean on this to make excuses for ourselves. (“I’m an I personality, I can’t possibly know how to organize or be detail-oriented.” WRONG!) If we really look at ourselves in an honest mirror, we can achieve a kind of greatness that will inspire others to be great as well. It’s not about being the most successful, it’s about helping others to attain the same type of success that you have. It’s why we comment and link to each other and give each other awards. We want people to get out of bed and be passionate about something the second they hit the ground. Being in the presence of passion is exciting and motivating.

I found a great website that not only explains your personality but tells you how to relish in it and how to overcome your own obstacles. If you don’t know what your personality type/s is/are, take the test. Here is my personality:

I (Influence)

General Characteristics:
Enthusiastic. Trusting; Optimistic. Persuasive; Talkative. Impulsive; Emotional

Value to Team:
Creative problem solver. Great encourager. Motivates others to achieve. Positive sense of humor. Negotiates conflicts; peace maker.

Possible Weaknesses:
More concerned with popularity than tangible results. Inattentive to detail. Overuses gestures and facial expressions. Tends to listen only when it’s convenient.

Greatest Fear:
Rejection.

Motivated By:
Flattery, praise, popularity, and acceptance. A friendly environment. Freedom from many rules and regulations. Other people available to handle details.

Ideal Environment:
Practical procedures. Few conflicts and arguments. Freedom from controls and details. A forum to express ideas. Group activities in professional and social environments

Remember a High I May Want:
Social esteem and acceptance, freedom from details and control, people to talk to, positive working conditions, recognition for abilities, opportunity to motivate and influence others.

DO:
Build a favorable, friendly environment. Give opportunity for them to verbalize about ideas, people and their intuition. Assist them in developing ways to transfer talk into action. Share testimonials from others relating to proposed ideas. Allow time for stimulating, sociable activities. Submit details in writing, but don’t dwell on them. Develop a participative relationship. Create incentives for following through on tasks.

DON’T:
Eliminate social time. Do all the talking. Ignore their ideas or accomplishments. Tell them what to do.

While analyzing information, a High I may:
Lose concentration. Miss important facts and details. Interrupt. Be creative in problem solving.

I’s possess these positive characteristics in teams:
Instinctive communicators. Participative managers – influence and inspire. Motivate the team. Spontaneous and agreeable. Respond well to the unexpected. Create an atmosphere of well being. Enthusiastic. Provide direction and leadership. Express ideas well. Work well with other people. Make good spokespersons. Will offer opinions. Persuasive. Have a positive attitude. Accomplish goals through people. Good sense of humor. Accepting of others. Strong in brainstorming sessions.

Personal Growth Areas for I’s:
Weigh the pros and cons before making a decision; be less impulsive. Be more results oriented. Exercise control over your actions, words, and emotions. Focus more on details and facts. Remember to slow down your pace for other team members. Talk less; listen more. Consider and evaluate ideas from other team members. Concentrate on following through with tasks.

It’s accurate. But it doesn’t address the fact that I am also very type A as well. I write lists for my lists and am extremely detail oriented. I love to organize and have things in their places. So I read these personality summaries and take what I know is true and try to improve upon them. Yes, we can be more than one personality. We are multi-faceted and that’s what makes us interesting.

So today, while that idea is rolling around in your head, develop a plan. Not just a plan of action but a plan to keep yourself motivated. Figure out how to get your head in the game and keep it there. Plan for the bad days because those are the days and weeks that will hold you back. The good days will work themselves out. And go read these sources that I have given you. I truly believe they will be invaluable to our success. Happy Saturday to you!

13 Responses to I Needed This and You Probably Do Too! (you just don’t know it yet)
  1. monique
    January 16, 2010 | 12:30 pm

    Great post today, Kallay! Definitely motivational!

    • kallaydoscope
      January 16, 2010 | 12:34 pm

      Haha! We just cross commented! And thank you! I can’t wait to see your success with this triathlon. You’re going to rock it!

      • monique
        January 16, 2010 | 4:05 pm

        We totally cross commented! I noticed that. Coincidence? I think not.

  2. Salt
    January 16, 2010 | 1:42 pm

    Woah. I wasn’t motivated to do anything before this post and now I totally am!! I love it! I haven’t watched the vid yet, but just your words got me moving. I think I’m going to take that personality test. :)

    I hope it doesn’t tell me to never leave the house.

  3. Heather
    January 16, 2010 | 1:52 pm

    Hey Kallay,
    Great post again. I’m with you on the recognition thing and as a new blogger its been great to connect with some like-minded souls. Writing is good for the soul and “connecting” with fellow bloggers has been icing on the cake. Thank you!
    Namaste,
    Heather

  4. Kelly @ Dare to be Domestic
    January 17, 2010 | 10:59 am

    Kallay this is so great thank you for this. While I always enjoy reading everyone’s silly blog entries full of comedy it’s ones like this that really get me going. Keep up the great work! ox (Off to take my test).

  5. Allyson
    January 18, 2010 | 12:09 am

    Oh my goodness, girlie, I can feel the fire of your passion from HERE! You’re all over it today (or Saturday, but Saturday was lost to cleaning and drinking…so, for me, it’s today). I was listening to Fresh Air on NPR (y’know, while my Dad was listening to Rush on the radio on the way home from Florida) and Terri Gross had Tracy Morgan on. And Tracy said, “the gift is in the spirit of cooperation, not the spirit of competition.” It rung so true for me, that I had to write it down. Finding what motivates you is one of the most important concepts a person can discover about themselves. What motivates me is beautiful and inexpensive jewelry – I may never get rich from it…but I get up everyday with a big smile on my face and an eagerness to get it started. I never felt that way as a gym manager or a bank teller or anything else. I love this post because it echoes a belief I have about motivation and inspiration and convictions. Way to rock it!

  6. Jen
    January 18, 2010 | 11:05 am

    I really needed this today. Thanks for posting it.

  7. raisedq
    January 18, 2010 | 12:07 pm

    This is such a great post…chock full of good advice and links. I am definitely going to take the personality test!
    Just this morning I put one of my plans into action:) I used to be a floral designer and a sometimes-amateur seamstress. I’ve had a great design idea for a couple of weeks and called a friend to hook me up w/supplies I’m going to need. So, I feel like I am accomplished today…and I didn’t even go to work yet:)
    I can relate to the money not being my inspiration. I’ve had a most excellent paying job and most weeks would forget to pick-up my check on payday. Not that it wasn’t needed…but that’s not why I was there.
    Okay, I’ve rattled on here…once again an excellent post & I truly feel inspired:)

  8. foxy
    January 18, 2010 | 3:50 pm

    You got the mojo going on, girl! And you’re passing it on… I’m feeling all kinds of good after reading that post!

  9. Missy
    January 18, 2010 | 6:06 pm

    I have that site with the video bookmarked to watch.

    Stopping in from SITS.

  10. Paul Wynn
    January 19, 2010 | 2:50 am

    K is it safe now to walk into this post? Cool, you are popular missy! Greatest fear is rejection? Mine was too until I started working at a grocery store and I get rejected it all the time .. no more fear! Give it a try?

  11. Krysten
    January 19, 2010 | 2:03 pm

    This was a totally inspiring post lady! I’ve had a hard time feeling inspired about ANYTHING these days and your post definitely got my heart pumping a bit faster.

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